Saturday, April 30, 2022

Fresh Start 2022 - Miracles Begin (Part 3)

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When God started talking to me about the changes taking place in my life, He clearly said, “You don’t have the plan. You don’t have the money. Any path you choose is going to require faith and is going to require miracles.” I decided, if that is the case, I want to recognize and record the miracles. The following is taken from my 4/18/22 journaling as I started recording the first miracles. (This is taken directly from my journaling).

“Lord, You told me on the 29th that You would bless whichever of those three paths I chose. You said any path would require faith and would require miracles. I took You at Your word and said OK. It is interesting that the “it will require miracles” did not scare me. I guess that in itself confirms another word that You gave me telling me that the storms Brooke and I have faced in the past have built our faith to equip us for this. The thing with Brooke’s job was one of the most awful to go through, but You showed Yourself so faithful and strong. It was impossible for us to make it in the natural, but You provided. You not only provided, but You (true to Your Word) used it for our good.

Which leads me to the miracles. I want to record the miracles that You do for us in this journey. One of the first ones would be BROOKE’S NEW JOB. The enemy tried to destroy her, but You sustained us for a year, gave her a much-needed break, provided a good job she enjoys at a place where is she appreciated, and now a raise to the highest paying job she has ever had. Just when we needed it the most. Thank you, Jesus!

Secondly, the connections You are bringing as I pursue real estate. That first hour long PHONE CALL WITH JENNIFER LINDER was so encouraging and a confirmation that You will take care of us. To have a dear friend who has become a success in this field, who is willing to invest in me, who has high-level skills and will help me as I grow in this…nothing short of a miracle.

I originally included PASTOR DON CONNECTING ME WITH THE CARRILLOS as a part of this “connections” or “mentors” miracle, but it is different in that it is helping me get set up and connecting me with what seems to be an excellent broker for starting out. And that first phone call with them, investing an hour and a half with me, listening, encouraging, sharing practical wisdom and praying with me. This connection and phone call was/is a miracle and a confirmation that You are going to take care of us.

At the last Cop Church, I was so excited and then You began talking to me about a “decrease in my ministry” for a time (which I have come to understand now means a ministry sabbatical). I could not picture my life without cop ministry, but You began showing me You were closing that door. While I was still struggling with this, Nicholas text and said he found A NEW HOME FOR COP CHURCH if it is needed. You worked so gently with me to help me see the door was closing for me, but You were protecting this ministry that is so near and dear to my heart. I am still processing this loss, but I see Your hand in it. Thank You for taking care of Cop Church and thank You for the gentle way you showed me the door is closing.

As I began to understand that You were calling me to a ministry sabbatical, the last and hardest area to lay down was ACAPP, in particular my briefing visits. {We had not finalized our church plans at this point}. I accepted it (but had not really processed it) when I started talking to Robert Muszynski last night to tell him I would soon stop my briefing visits. It wasn’t until we started talking that I saw another miracle, how YOU RAISED UP ROBERT MUSZYNSKI AT WEST STATION to continue ministry to officers there. In all the years I’ve been doing briefing visits, nobody has shared my passion for it until Robert started this last year. He has the passion and the anointing. Laying this down is the hardest and I’m still in the numb phase, but I see Your hand and I’m thankful.”

What were your favorite cartoons growing up?

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Wow…cartoons were SO different when I was a kid. My absolute favorite was Looney Tunes on Saturday morning. Bugs Bunny, Elmer Fudd, Daffy Cuck, Tweety, Sylvester, Wile E Coyote, Road Runner, Tasmanian Devil, Yosemitie Sam, Porky Pig, Forhorn Leghorn, Pepe Le Pew, Marvin the Martian, Speedy Gonzales and some other minor characters. They must have run for 2 hours straight on a Saturday morning.

I also liked Scooby Doo. Scooby-Doo, Shaggy, Fred, Daphne and Velma. And the other cartoon I remember liking, when I was older, was the Smurfs.

What are your favorite songs?

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For my “favorite” songs, I am going to pick 3 songs that meant something special to me at certain times in my life…songs that God gave me to get through a hard time. I will share the song, the circumstance and the lyrics.

Song #1 - Destined To Win by DeGarmo and Key

The first time I heard this song was on a Sunday morning while I was in college at Olivet (my sophomore year, my first year away from home). It was not sung by DeGarmo and Key, but by my pastor’s wife as a special that morning. I do not remember why I was struggling that weekend, but I was, and the song really encouraged me. I am not sure who I borrowed the DeGarmo and Key tape from (yes, cassette tape!), but I blasted it in my apartment all Sunday afternoon. It encouraged me and brought me out of whatever I was dealing with.

Here are the lyrics:

This songs to all the people

With light in their hearts

And love in their eyes

You don’t have to worry

When the mountains seem of infinite size


There is one who goes before you to calm the sea

There’s a king who leads his people to victory


We are Destined to Win

We’re surrounded by his Love

And guarded by his power

Destined to Win

Following the Lord until the battles over

We are Destined to Win


We all get discouraged

When the pressures of life start weighing us down

We’ve learned that in his footsteps

Crosses in life must preceed the crowns


There is one who goes before you

To calm the sea

There’s a king who leads his people to victory


We are Destined to Win

We’re surrounded by his Love

And guarded by his power

Destined to Win

Following the Lord until the battles over

We are Destined to Win


We’ve got to remember

It’s our destiny to win the end

With Christ on our side

We are Destined to Win


We are Destined to Win

We’re surrounded by his Love

And guarded by his power

Destined to Win

Following the Lord until the battles over

Destined to Win


Song #2 - Way Maker by Sinach

I first heard this song in 2018. Brooke and I had hit the lowest point in our marriage, and she had moved out (her stuff was still at home, but she was not staying at home). It seemed possible that our marriage would not survive. I had not given up faith in God being able to restore us, but my prayers were not prayers of great faith, rather of trust. During this time, I heard Way Maker, and it became my anthem. I played this song over and over and over again…each time building my faith that God IS a way maker, miracle worker, promise keeper, light in the darkness. God is SO good…He not only restored our marriage but used the recovery to make our marriage stronger that it ever was before. As only He can do, He turned what the devil meant to destroy us into something GOOD.

Here are the lyrics:

You are here

Moving in our midst

I worship you

I worship you

You are here

Working in this place

I worship you

I worship you

You are here

Moving in our midst

I worship you

I worship you

You are here

Working in this place

I worship you

I worship you


Way maker

Miracle worker

Promise keeper

Light in the darkness

That is who you are

Way maker

Miracle worker

Promise keeper

Light in the darkness

My God

That is who you are


You are here

You are here

Touching every heart

I worship you

I worship you

You are here

You are here

Healing every heart

I worship you

I worship you

I worship you

I worship you


You are here

Turning lives around

Turning lives around

I worship you

I worship you

I worship you

I worship you

You are here

You are here

Mending every heart

Mending every heart

I worship you

I worship you

I worship you

I worship you


We call you “way maker”

Miracle worker

Promise keeper

Light in the darkness

My God, my God

That is who you are


We call you “way maker”

Miracle worker

Promise keeper

Light in the darkness

My God, my God

That is who you are


Lift up your hands


You wipe away all tears

You mend a broken heart

You’re the answer to it all


You wipe away all tears

You mend all the broken heart

You’re the answer to it all (to it all)

Jesus


Way maker

Miracle worker

Promise keeper

Light in the darkness

My God, my God

That is who you are

Way maker

Way maker

Miracle worker

Promise keeper

Light in the darkness

My God, my God

That is who you are


Way maker

Way maker

Miracle worker

Promise keeper

Promise keeper

Light in the darkness

My God, my God

That is who you are

Way maker

Way maker

Way maker

Way maker

Miracle worker

Promise keeper

Light in the darkness


That is who you are


Way maker

Miracle worker

Promise keeper

That is who you are

That is who you are


Lift up your hands


Way maker

Miracle worker

Promise keeper

Light in the darkness

That is who you are


Way maker

Miracle worker

Promise keeper

Light in the darkness

That is who you are


…to you

He’s always on top

He’s a way maker

It doesn’t matter how long it takes


Lift up your hands and worship


Way maker

Miracle worker

Promise keeper

Light in the darkness

That is who you are


One more time of your life


Way maker

Miracle worker

Promise keeper

Light in the darkness

My God, my God

That is who you are


Song #3 - Coming Through by Jeremiah Brinkley (First15 Worship)

I first heard this song (it was just released) by my friend Jeremiah Brinkley. It is pretty obvious that this song was a desperate cry from Jeremiah’s heart to God, and a confession of faith when he did not yet see the answer. It was POWERFUL when I first heard it, and it stuck with me. But when God started talking to me about changing jobs and then backing down from ministry for a time, He brought this song to my mind again. This song is one that is currently building my faith that God is FAITHFUL, He is GOOD and He is always COMING THROUGH.

Here are the lyrics:

You always come through You always will do

Everything you say you’re going to

You always provide You always on time

Right when I need you You’re always by my side


[Pre-Chorus]

So in the waiting

I’ll be patient


[Chorus]

You are the one who holds the stars

So You’ll be the one who holds my heart

You are the one who made the pieces

So you’ll put it back together again

You are the one who calms the seas

So You’ll be the one who will calms this storm Inside me

I’ll never have to wonder what you’ll do

Cause You’re always coming through


[Verse 2]

You’re always trustworthy You quiet my worries

You traded your life and give me mercy

Your love is so perfect I Never could earn it

But you looked at my heart and said I’m worth it

And Though I don’t deserve it


[Chorus]

You are the one who holds the stars

So You’ll be the one who holds my heart

You are the one who made the pieces

So you’ll put it back together again

You are the one who calms the seas

So You’ll be the one who will calms this storm Inside me

I’ll never have to wonder what you’ll do

Cause You’re always coming through


[Bridge]

I know you’ll guide me

And you’ll supply for me

I know you will

Cause that’s who you are

I know you’ll shield me

I know you’ll heal me

I know you will

Cause that’s who you are

I know you’ll save me

You’ll Make a way for me

I know you will

Cause that’s who you are

I know you’ll fight for me

Do what’s right for me

I know you will

Cause that’s who you are


[Pre-Chorus]

So in the waiting

I’ll be patient


[Chorus]

You are the one who calms the seas

So You’ll be the one who will calms this storm Inside me

I’ll never have to wonder what you’ll do

Cause You’re always coming through

Saturday, April 09, 2022

Fresh Start 2022 - First Journaling Entry 3/29/22 (Part 2)

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This is from my journaling on 3/29/22.

Verse I read that morning:
Commit to the Lord whatever you do, and He will establish your plans. ~Proverbs 16:3 (NIV)

From the YouVersion devotion Brooke and I were reading that day (Faith Over Fear):
“We cannot allow our fears of failing to keep us from reaching our potential.

Too often do we allow fear to paralyze us. We sit and wait until we are no longer afraid, when we could have acted long before. God has a plan in place for you, and it may require you to step out of the realm of your comfort zone. You may be uncomfortable. You may be scared. You may not feel that you are ready, but you will when it’s time.

Fear is nothing. Fear is a mirage. It’s a temporary emotion based on a temporary situation. And a tool that the enemy uses to keep us stagnant. Fear is a natural response to the unknown, but you can’t allow fear to control your life.

Often fear is what comes before change, and change is necessary for growth. Your want for success and happiness must be stronger than your fear of failure.

Your faith must triumph over fear. God puts us in situations of discomfort for a reason.

2 Timothy 1:7 says that the Lord has not given us a spirit of fear, but a spirit of power and love, and of a sound mind. Know that in everything you do in His name, you will be prosperous. Failure is a stepping stone on the journey to success. It is not to be feared, but to be learned from. Fear is only a setback if you allow it to be so.

God is greater than your fear of failure.”

My written-out prayer to God that morning:
“So Lord, what do I do? I have got to start moving forward. I am sitting here, overwhelmed, doing nothing. You have not given a spirit of fear, but that is the word I am living right now. As soon as I wake up, I can’t go back to sleep. I run to You and after being in your presence, I can start my day. And then I get overwhelmed and just want to go to bed and sleep to escape. Until I wake up and start all over again. This is NOT what You have for me. The future does not have to be known in order not to be controlled by fear. help me, Lord.

Do I pursue three things (ministry job, administrative assistant, realty) or do I just pursue one because I do not need to be spread any thinner?”

When I journal, I write down the thoughts that come to me when I am praying, believing that is how God speaks to us. This is what I believe the Lord was saying to me that morning:


“Yes Rob, get focused. You are spinning your wheels with no true plan forward. Any path you choose is going to require faith and is going to require miracles. you will not see the solution before you start walking. You will not have the answers ahead of time. you must walk by faith. it is now impossible for you to stay where you are and stay comfortable. Every hard battle, every “impossible” situation I have brought you through has been preparation for this. You have the faith you need to make it through this. If you didn’t, I would not have allowed it to happen now. You understand that, right? I allowed this to happen now because you already have what you need to make it through. You do not have the plan. You do not have the money. You do not have anything on your own. I know that. But you have Me, I am ALL you need. And I have prepared your faith for this. Of course, you do not feel prepared. If you did, you wouldn’t need faith and your faith would not grow. You are here to grow and to learn, Rob. You are here to learn to know Me better and to know my heart. This will equip you to minister to people in a new way, too. I don’t have you on the earth to take up time until I bring you home.

I have a Kingdom purpose for you, and I have a (personal) purpose for you. Right now, this season, this is for developing you. Your ministry to others is going to look much different right now. It is going to decrease because I am working on you. It does not mean ministry is over, but if you want to grow, the focus is going to be on Me and you right now. Your Kingdom purpose is not over, but now is not the time to try and imagine what that will be. You are going to have to trust Me in this, too. I am not finished with your Kingdom purpose…I am working on you (personal purpose) for what is next. What is next for you and then what is next for your ministry. DO NOT try to figure out what ministry is going to look like after this. You cannot foresee it, plan it or even work towards it. It’s there, but it’s My plan and My future for you. For now, we are working on you. Accept it and understand it as an act of love. Understand that this also will require a new level of faith and trust on your part.”

Fresh Start 2022 - Intro to A Series (Part 1)

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It seems God is doing a new thing in my life in 2022 - “Reinventing Me at 53”. Now THAT is not a headline I would have chosen, but God does what is best for us even if we are not smart enough to know it is what is best for us. And sometimes, things just happen in life, but God works it out for our good (Romans 8:28) because He loves us and because He is a good Father.

I made a joke about “Reinventing Me at 53” because I thought it was funny and it is probably how the world would define what is going to be going on in my life this year. But I am calling it “Fresh Start 2022” because I believe God is giving me a fresh start in life. It didn’t feel that way when it started and I know there may be some stormy rides ahead, but God is SO GOOD and has shown me this is a fresh start, it is for my good, it is intentional, and it is to bless me in every way. Because of this, I want to document this journey here (in Storyworth). Most all of this (I think) will come from my journaling times with the Lord.

CONTEXT
This journey began when Pastor Don and I were talking about the most important priorities at the church and how, if we do not get the priorities taken care of, in order, a downward slide could end not well. The priorities he listed were:

1. Sunday mornings

2. Kids ministry

3. Youth ministry

4. Adult ministry

5. Communication (social media/marketing)

6. Administration

Both our children's director and youth director were volunteers, and both got raises/new positions at work that took away the time they had to devote to these two ministries. Without these two ministries thriving and growing, it is nearly impossible to attract and keep new families. We need a person to fill those roles, but it would not be financially responsible to bring on a 4th full-time pastor given our current church size and budget. What we need is a Family Pastor to oversee both kids and youth ministry. 

As we discussed this, Pastor Don asked me to pray about transitioning out of my current staff position and take this new Family Pastor position. My initial thought was, "Yes, I could do that. This is my church, and this is what's needed." I began to pray about it, talk with my wife and get the counsel of friends. An answer came quickly: Brooke cried and told me, “That’s not you.” My best friend Craig ‘yelled’ at me and said, “That’s not you.” This helped me hear the Holy Spirit saying, “That’s not you”.

Although this question was answered, I could not get away from the fact that we did indeed need this new position. Pastor Don had described the situation as a puzzle that needed to be solved. As I prayed about it, I began getting uncomfortable which is usually a sign that God is trying to get me to do something. I don't like change, so God has to make me uncomfortable to get me moving. I told Brooke, "I think I'm supposed to get another job."

When I told Pastor Don I could not take the position, he was not surprised (he also knew that was not me). As I discussed with Pastor Don my decision to get another job (one that would be a higher paying job and would benefit our family financially), he immediately offered to help me find a new job and do everything possible so that there would not be a financial cost on top of the emotional cost of this decision. He said he could find resume help for me, interview coaching or whatever I needed. He said Brooke and I could stay in the house with no set exit date (through the end of the year, no questions, after the first of the year, we can see how things look).

There was a short time between me knowing I could not take the new position and talking to Pastor Don about it. I thought my options would be to find another church job or look for a career change to become an administrative assistant. Along the way, Brooke asked, “Have you ever considered real estate?” My original response was, “No, I have not” (sort of dismissing it), but the more I thought about it, the more appealing it became as an option. When I prayed about it, I felt I had 3 options, all of which the Lord said He would bless: 1) another church job 2) administrative assistant, 3) real estate.

As I prayed about these options (see my first journaling post), I decided to pursue real estate. As soon as Pastor Don heard that, he immediately set up a meeting for me with Mark & Lisa Carrillo. Lisa is a real estate broker and Pastor Mark is now a business coach. They spent an hour and a half pouring into me, listening, praying, encouraging and sharing wisdom to help me begin this new venture. See my Miracles post for more details.

MY PLAN
As Brooke and I talked about what the future would look like, my thoughts were to stay at the church as a lay pastor which would allow me to continue leading Cop Church, ministering with ACAPP and my West Station briefings. Pastor Don was very supportive, and we talked about what that would look like.

During this time, Brooke and I had a LOT of questions, trying to work it out, and we were not always on the same page. But like no other time in our lives, we were at peace, and we were in unity that God would show us the way, we would both know it, and we would walk it out together. 

GOD'S PLAN
As you can read in my first journaling post, while I thought this was all about a job change, God had bigger plans. God spoke to me that, for now, my ministry to others would be decreasing so He could work some things in my life. I did not know what that meant when I first heard it, but over the next week to 10 days it became apparent that God was asking me to step away from ministry so that He could work His purposes in me. It was that black-and-white what He wanted, yet I still do not exactly what this means/what He intends to do. What I do know is He asked me one day if I would give up Cop Church so that He could do what He wanted to do in my life, so I said "yes". The next day, He asked if I would be willing to lay down ACAPP and my ministry with the police so that He could do what He wanted to do in my life, so I said "yes". And a day or two after that, He asked me if I would lay down my ministry at Vine Fellowship (even as a lay pastor) so that He could do what He wanted to do in my life. I could not picture my life without these three ministries, but God made it clear He was asking me to do this and that He was doing it so He could do something GOOD in my life. I said "yes".

Brooke was praying this whole time and, in her own time with the Lord, Brooke heard the same thing. As we discussed it, we realized this meant that we could not stay at Vine Fellowship because it would be impossible to be there without being "Pastor Rob and Miss Brooke". My heart is the heart of a pastor for our church, and God said His focus will be on just me and Him for a season. It was with sad hearts but 100% peace that we made this announcement to the church on April 24th at the end of service.

WHERE TO FROM HERE?
Pastor Don and I agreed on a plan that would both bless Brooke and I financially and make my transition out easier for the church; I will continue working at the church for a time (approximately 2 more months). During this time, I will also be in real estate school. My focus will be finishing classes as quickly as possible (180 hours) and setting up others to assume my responsibilities with as little disruption for the church as possible. At that time, Brooke and I will step away from the church and into what God has next. All we know now is we will find a church where we are not Pastor Rob and Miss Brooke, where we can be refreshed and allow God to do what He wants in our lives. He has made it clear that He is not done with us in ministry, but that is not for us to try and figure out now. He has blessings for us when it is time. And so, we step out in faith!

Friday, April 08, 2022

What is one of your favorite drinks?

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I suppose the question is supposed to be for those who like alcoholic drinks, but that’s not me. I have tried a couple drinks since being an adult, but to me, the alcohol ruins the taste of whatever it is in.

Funny story: the first time I ever tasted alcohol was on our honeymoon. Our trip to Puerto Vallarta was an all-expense paid trip (meals were paid for as well as drinks). Since we were in an area that had a lot of good fruit drinks, and since I was not drinker, I ordered virgin fruit drinks. They had something with mango in it that was pretty good, and I also liked pina coladas and banana daiquiris. I got one banana daiquiri and I kept telling Brooke, “Wow, the bananas they used must have been REALLY green.” After saying that 3-4 times (and not really enjoying my drink), Brooke took a sip and informed me it was not a virgin drink. The “green banana” taste I did not like was the alcohol!

My beverage of choice as an adult has usually been some variation of Diet Coke :)